{"id":800,"date":"2010-09-01T18:51:45","date_gmt":"2010-09-02T00:51:45","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/kaitlyn-marsue.net\/?p=800"},"modified":"2010-09-01T18:51:45","modified_gmt":"2010-09-02T00:51:45","slug":"enough-of-this-self-pity","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/kaitlyn-marsue.net\/?p=800","title":{"rendered":"enough of this self pity!"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>\tI\u0092ve been wallowing in everything that\u0092s not going exactly right and moping around and eating raw cookie dough to compensate for it and feeling generally miserable (probably because of the cookie dough).  It\u0092s time for this little pity party to end.<\/p>\n<p>\tSee, I got to thinking.  There is actually a lot to be happy about.  Maybe not hoot and holler and do cartwheels in the street happy.  But happy.  And to make myself stop moping and eating raw cookie dough and feeling generally miserable, I am going to make myself list out what\u0092s fine.  Or maybe even good.<\/p>\n<p>\tI\u0092ll start with the phone call I just took.  Our furniture is in!  They can even deliver it on Saturday! Yippee!  No more old uncomfortable couch!  No more fighting for a spot on said couch!  And maybe getting the couch in the basement will spark Bill to take the plunge and buy the stuff he needs to set up his movie viewing down there.  I am so excited, I\u0092m sitting here smiling like a goofball.<\/p>\n<p>\tWe won\u0092t be able to sit on our new furniture and watch tv unless Bill can get that fixed.  But is not being able to watch tv really that horrible?  This week while he\u0092s been gone, I haven\u0092t had to fight with Kaitlyn over watching tv during dinner.  She\u0092s actually had to talk to me.  And it\u0092s actually been pleasant.  Yes.  I miss the stupid tv.  But I can still watch the one in my room.  And since I tend to fall asleep watching anyway, this works out pretty well.<\/p>\n<p>\tKaitlyn is not behind in math.  She is not struggling with math.  She is bringing home papers with perfect and near perfect scores.  She is embracing the challenge of the timed test (which always left me in tears the night before struggling to study for it) and this week improved her score by 50%.  Holy.  Cow.  That is amazing.  And that was before we even started the nightly flash cards.  <\/p>\n<p>\tKaitlyn is not frustrated with school. Even though she is behind in reading, she is not letting that get to her.  This morning when the school bus driver skipped us and I pointed out that the bus would not be picking her up, Kaitlyn said  \u0093but can\u0092t I go to school?\u0094  And she meant it.  She wanted to go.  And driving her was ok.  I got to see her go in and smile and feel so comfortable at the school she\u0092s only known for two weeks now.  She walked in like she\u0092s been attending for two years.<\/p>\n<p>\tFrustrated by some of Kaitlyn\u0092s less than pleasant tendencies, I read a book on parenting.  Among it\u0092s suggestions:  raise the bar.  Expect more and you\u0092ll get more.  So I did.  And it\u0092s true.  Last night she made me set an alarm clock in her room for her to use to wake up.  And this morning, she got up, hit the Scooby Doo head so he\u0092d stop barking and she got out of bed.  So, she laid back down after going to the bathroom.  She didn\u0092t go back to sleep and getting her out from the simply-lounging-listening-to-the-radio position was far easier than the sound asleep position I generally battle.   She\u0092s generally more pleasant and more prone to actually do what she\u0092s asked to.  Without the eye rolling and moaning that used to go with it.  And boy has that all made a huge difference with Bill gone this week.  Huge.  <\/p>\n<p>\tI haven\u0092t lost any weight since starting to go to exercise classes (ahem&#8230; raw cookie dough) but I am going.  And feeling better.  And enjoying the classes (mostly).  And meeting people.  And making friends.  <\/p>\n<p> \tWhen I vent to my blog, I tend to forget people actually read it.  Although that is the point.  In the last couple of days I was reminded of that when friends sent me notes of encouragement they thought I could use after they read it.  They have no idea what that means to me.  (Not that they read it but that they care enough to reach out and make sure I\u0092m really ok.  Maybe they\u0092ll know now if they keep reading.)  It was so good to be reminded that the strange life that is that of an ex-pat doesn\u0092t just flash back to normal when you repatriate.  And that others have gone through it and that same support I found in France, I can find here.  A lesson I thought I\u0092d learned there was that if you need help, ask for it.  I\u0092d started to forget it.  Or at least discard its importance.  I even consciously thought about this the other day.  Still, it took friends reaching out to snap me out of the \u0093I can do it all myself\u0094 two-year-old-ish approach to life.  <\/p>\n<p>\tWe\u0092re all healthy.  (Colds don\u0092t count.)  We have friends.  We\u0092re close enough to see family more often now.  And I\u0092m not stuck at work covering Hurricane Earl.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I\u0092ve been wallowing in everything that\u0092s not going exactly right and moping around and eating raw cookie dough to compensate for it and feeling generally miserable (probably because of the cookie dough). It\u0092s time for this little pity party to end. See, I got to thinking. There is actually a lot to be happy about. 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